Where’s my phone?! (I may be a bit scatterbrained)

Where’s my phone?! (I may be a bit scatterbrained)

I may be a bit scatterbrained… especially with my phone.

Under pillows, on the floor, in the laundry basket, in the fridge (yes, really), on random shelves, under pillows and/or blankets, in the car… you name it, I’ve left it there. I’ve even done searches when the phone was RIGHT IN MY HAND!

Don’t lie. You know you can totally relate.

Conversations with hubby #2

* A typical day *

Me:
(frantically searching through the house)
Sweetie, have you seen my phone?

Steve:
(without looking up)
Did you check your purse?

Me:
Yes.

Steve:
The kitchen?

Me:
Yes!

Steve:
The bedroom?

Me:
YES!

Steve:
…IN the bed?

Me:
(through gritted teeth)
YEEEEEEEES!

Steve:
Then I got nothin’.

Me:
(Stomps away angrily)

* Five minutes later *

Me:
I found it.

Steve:
And, it was….?

Me:
(Mumbling)
In the bed….

Steve:
Huh? What’d you say? Did you say it was in the bed?

Me:
Yes, yes!!! IN THE BED. UNDER THE DAMN PILLOW.
(Flops down on the couch)

Steve:
You’re welcome.

Me:
(Angrily flips through the phone in silence)

*AAAAAAAND, scene*

 

Giving up: an artist’s journey of self-realization

Giving up: an artist’s journey of self-realization

Have you ever thought of giving up?

Let me rephrase that. I don’t mean giving up ENTIRELY (please don’t do that!). No, I’m talking about that come-to-Jesus meeting, that intervention we all face at strategic points in our lives. Who am I? What is my purpose? Apparently, I did that this week – to a lesser extent. Not so much, “What is my purpose?” as, “Why don’t people like meeeee?!” (Or, maybe I just had a mental breakdown and started talking back to the voices in my head. But hey, I’m an artist. We’re allowed a little bit of insanity.)

So how does giving up work, exactly?

1. Learn from your past, but don’t live there.

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This is me – my story of how I got to where I am, and my story of self-realization. I began the journey a long time ago. Lots of starts and stops along the way, from the kid who doodled all over her books in elementary school, to the artsy girl in high school drawing anime characters, to the budding art professional with a Bachelor in Studio Art. I have worked in graphic design, as a preschool art teacher, and all kinds of non-creative jobs scattered in between.

During some of that time, my muse stayed close. We were best friends. I had so many ideas, I thought I may burst if I didn’t get them down on paper. Long dry spells inevitably followed. Days were spent plagued with depression and anxiety and a constant struggle to find some sort of self-worth. Nothing I did was good enough. I felt inferior and longed for days past when things weren’t so complicated and hard.

Both sides of that coin shaped who I am today, so I cannot regret any of it. But I can learn from those times. And, when those dry spells inevitably come around again, I can be ready for them.

2. Let go of unrealistic expectations.

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I found my footing again last fall. Since then, I have spent every-possible-moment-since taking advantage of the inspiration, painstakingly trying to create quality content — and trying to grow my fan-base, extend my empire. Except, my empire is very, very small (really more of a village). For a while that bothered me and, if I’m honest with myself, it still bothers me a bit.

But, do you know what? I am learning that when I raise the bar too high, too fast, that’s when I crash and fail. So what if I have few followers? Those that do follow me, my people, my kindred spirits — they are gold. YOU, my friends, are precious gold. Because you are real people who take an interest in what I do. You find value in the work I create (if not, you wouldn’t bother hanging around). That means so much more than thousands of followers.

At the end of the day, I need to feel that my art means something. I need to believe that my words have power. We all do. But if I touch only one soul, make only one person smile, that still means something.

3. Give up on what you can’t control.

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I have spent years fighting for control. Control over my circumstances. Control over how others perceive me. Things that I can never hope to attain but that I continue to beat myself up over. I cannot force others to like what I do. I cannot force others to invest in my work. But I CAN foster relationships and build trust with those who do. And that’s my focus, from here on out. Creating quality art for quality people, numbers be damned.

I may not have 2000 followers. I may not be earning much at all from my Patreon campaign. But if I focus on the small things, I realize that I’m pretty lucky in the long run. 🙂

What do you have a hard time giving up on? Let me know in the comments below!

My husband says I have always been flaky

My husband says I have always been flaky

Flaky [ˈflākē] : ADJECTIVE. 1. Breaking or separating easily into small, thin pieces. 2. Crazy or eccentric.

I’ll be the first to admit I’m flaky. Still, there’s a time and a place for such revelations. Case in point:

In the morning, on the way to work, I step down our four measly brick steps in the garage on my way to the car. Unfortunately, my brain forgets the routine I have been performing almost daily close to the last decade and my foot misses the last step. As I crumple to the floor, my knees save my face from planting first on the concrete.

And so, I unceremoniously pick myself off – laughing, because what else can a klutz do in this sad comedy of errors? – and gather my fallen belongings.

Does Steve offer a hand, a word of sympathy or encouragement?

Of course not.

Convos with hubby #1

Steve (watching bemusedly from the doorway): What in the world happened?

Me: (sighs) I missed the step.

Steve: But… how?

Me: I don’t know! I just had a flaky moment, I guess.

Steve: Moment? But… you’re always flaky.

No kids – and how people react (a Socially Awkward comic)

No kids – and how people react (a Socially Awkward comic)

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We have no kids, and we are perfectly okay

The humor in this may be a little dark for some people. However, it’s something that just sort of spilled out and it was very therapeutic for me to draw. We have no kids. We wanted kids. I have wanted to be a mother for as long as I can remember. Unfortunately that just wasn’t in the cards. (I have a brief blog I wrote on my infertility journey, in case you’re interested to read more.)

I’ve come to appreciate my life as it is, with no kids, with lots of fur babies, and lots of nieces and nephews to spoil. And that’s fine! It’s a great life. I’m not less for not being a parent.

Some people just need to be reminded of that. 😉

 

Mind mapping: ditch the list & unleash your creative thinking

Mind mapping: ditch the list & unleash your creative thinking

What is mind mapping, anyway?

A visual, organic way to organize information

Mind mapping fell into my lap a while back during a time when I felt scattered and undisciplined (or maybe I came across it while pinning random pictures on Pinterest, I can’t remember). Lists no longer worked for me, if they had ever worked at all. And, that is a difficult thing for me to admit. Because I, being the true nerd that I am, have always had a thing for lists. Maybe it’s OCD… maybe I’m just weird. Either way, I love nothing more than planning things with nice little checklists. Sometimes (okay lots of times) I will even add a task I have already completed just to have the satisfaction of crossing it off my list.

But lists and I have a love/hate relationship. For one thing, order has always been important to me and if I thought of an item that belonged somewhere in the list but there was no room to add it – well, that drove me crazy and I often had to rewrite the whole list from scratch. For another, I would often get so hung up on making the list perfect that I would never get around to actually doing any of the items ON the list!

But what makes mind mapping so great?

The *idea* of mind mapping has been around for centuries, but the term and the practice we know it as today was coined by author Tony Buzan: “A Mind Map is a visual thinking tool that can be applied to all cognitive functions, especially memory, learning, creativity and analysis. Mind Mapping is a process that involves a distinct combination of imagery, colour and visual-spatial arrangement. The technique maps out your thoughts using keywords that trigger associations in the brain to spark further ideas.” (From the iMindMap software from Tony Buzan)

Simply put, the process goes a little like this:

  1. You have an idea
  2. You write the idea in the center of a piece of paper
  3. You start to connect other ideas that branch off of the central idea as keywords, pictures, etc.
  4. You fill up the paper with these word-associations, which spark more ideas, and more associations.

Think of a mind map as just that — a map. Maps use roads and paths to connect us from one place to another. Mind maps use words, thoughts, images, and color, to connect our thoughts together into one cohesive idea.

Have you tried mind mapping? If so, what are your thoughts? If not, what are you waiting for?! 😉

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Meet Dug: our newest fur baby (a Socially Awkward comic)

Meet Dug: our newest fur baby (a Socially Awkward comic)

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Meet Dug, our newest fur baby!

For those who don’t know our newest cuddle bug yet, meet Dug. He’s a 50 lb., sweet-as-pie, lovable, huggable, kissable, Tazmanian devil with a bundle of energy. We got him from a wonderful local rescue called Southern Skies at 8 months old. They had originally named him Douglas and – since we love Dug from the movie, Up, well… it seemed an obvious choice.

And it suits him. 🙂

First day of fall (a Socially Awkward comic)

First day of fall (a Socially Awkward comic)

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First day of fall

I love fall. Everything about it – the crinkling of leaves, the scent of bonfires and toasted marshmallows, the taste of pumpkin (to a degree. I’m not crazy-white-girl-pumpkin-spice in love with fall. I like my pumpkin in moderation).

But fall fashion HAS to be my favorite. Sweaters, cardigans, boots, and scarves. Lots and lots and lots of scarves… I have a Harry Potter scarf, a Doctor Who scarf, a gray scarf, a blue scarf (and apparently just turned into Dr. Suess!).

Anyway, the point is – fall is awesome.

 

First Pedicure (a Socially Awkward web comic)

First Pedicure (a Socially Awkward web comic)

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When a man gets his first pedicure…

I have long tried to get Steve to get his first pedicure. He tries to keep his toes and feet groomed and tidy, but there’s nothing like the experience of going to a spa and getting pampered for an hour. But, every time I mention the possibility, he scoffs at the mere idea of a man getting a pedicure. Who does such a thing?! (Lots of people, but I digress.)

During our beach vacation this summer, I scheduled myself a pedicure and jokingly mentioned scheduling one for him. Imagine my surprise when he actually said yes! Of course this momentous occasion had to be recorded!

And so, dear reader, I give you Steve’s first pedicure. Enjoy. 🙂

Harry Potter Land (a Socially Awkward Comic)

Harry Potter Land (a Socially Awkward Comic)

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Travelling with a NON Harry Potter fan…

This is my first guest-post (ghost-post? ghost-written-post?) user inspired comic. True story, this happened when my good friend and co-author, Heatherlyn Egan, and her friend Caleb went to visit the Wizarding World of Harry Potter at Universal Studios. Caleb, bless his heart, is not the die hard Harry Potter fan that Heatherlyn and I are… but I’ll forgive him, since it led to this hilarious back-and-forth between the two.

Enjoy! 🙂

Jazz Lounge Singer (a SociallyAwkward comic)

Jazz Lounge Singer (a SociallyAwkward comic)

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Jazz it up a little

This week’s comic is brought to you by a fun Instagram contest for the end of August. The only rule for the subject was: black-and-white. I decided to go with a vintage jazz style straight from the Roaring Twenties. (Which, let’s be honest, is awesome. The height of jazz, big band, and swing music? Don’t even get me started on the fashion!). The comic depicts me as a lounge singer belting out a tune with Steve rocking the bass* in the background.

*Side Note* You have to admit, he’d totally be one of those bassists. Or, maybe one of those bass guitar players who stands around bobbing his head to the music and plucking at the strings. You know the kind I’m talking about.

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Yeah. Just like that.

Favorite childhood books: things that inspire

Favorite childhood books: things that inspire

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Everyone treasures those select few favorite childhood books. You know the ones. These books have been read so many times, the binding is cracked and splintered. And, these books came to life when we read them, and the words engraved into the very marrow of our bones. These books hold stories that were our dearest friends, our closest companions, and our solace in many a darker time. Finally, they helped us to escape from the drudgery of life. They became our first loves. And, they taught us how to dream big.

So, what makes us gravitate to certain books more than others?

In all honesty, I have no answer for what makes this book greater than that book and vice versa. I know only that the books I gravitated toward had a tendency to show one or more of the following characteristics:

  • A character I identified with: If I could not find a character to identify with, I put the book down. I have always needed that connection to the story, a person who made me cheer for them, cry with them, feel everything they felt. Otherwise, a story lays flat and wooden to me.
  • Fantasy: Honestly, the more fantastical a story, the more I loved it. Real life can get pretty darn bleak, after all, and I wanted my stories to take me away from real life.
  • Humor: No book is complete without the ability to make me laugh. Sure, most of the time I laugh, then cry, then laugh some more, then get angry… whew. But, while a really good book sends me on one humongous, emotional roller coaster, it needs to make me laugh a lot to make up for it.
  • A happy ending: That’s right folks. No tragedies for this girl (see Fantasy section). Now, don’t get me wrong, I can handle a book where I KNOW there’s going to be some sort of tear-jerk ending (Fault In Our Stars, anyone?). However, I just tend to avoid seeking out those books unless they come HIGHLY recommended (and, to be honest, FIOS is absolutely hilarious, too, so I can forgive the sob fests). That said, I absolutely loathe being blindsided and will hate a book forever if it tricks me with a horrible, dark, tragic ending.

Want to know more?

Then, keep reading my top 5 favorite childhood books:

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favorite childhood books

My all-time favorite picture book, and one of the many reasons I wanted to be an illustrator when I grew up. The rhymes are ridiculous and lovely and chalk full of fantasy – from dragons and fairies to teddy bear knights and beyond – and each illustration captures the reader. Honestly, this book is too perfect for words.

Sadly, this one is out of print, but it can be purchased used and, to me, is worth so worth every penny!

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Winnie-the-Pooh

winnie the pooh book coverAnother huge favorite. I have always loved the sketchy, soft quality of the original illustrations. The stories are sweet, whimsical — and the characters, beloved. I loved these stories so much that I have always vowed my first nursery would be a Classic Pooh theme. Sadly, that hasn’t been possible, but it doesn’t keep me from having my own little collection of keepsakes. 😉

“Since 1926, Winnie-the-Pooh and his friends—Piglet, Owl, Tigger, and the ever doleful Eeyore—have endured as the unforgettable creations of A.A. Milne, who wrote this book for his son, Christopher Robin, and Ernest H. Shepard, who lovingly gave Pooh and his companions shape. These characters and their stories are timeless treasures of childhood that continue to speak to all of us with the kind of freshness and heart that distinguishes true storytelling.”

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True Story of the 3 Little Pigs

The True Story of the Three Little Pigs LLED 402 Blog 241x300 - Favorite childhood books: things that inspireI remember winning this book at my elementary school, and it was an immediate favorite. The story made me laugh out loud, but the illustrations really drew me in and made me love it. It’s such a silly premise that I would be hard pressed to find someone that doesn’t enjoy it.

“In this hysterical and clever fracture fairy tale picture book that twists point of view and perspective, young readers will finally hear the other side of the story of ‘The Three Little Pigs.'”

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Anne of Green Gables

619RpdGjmwL 275x300 - Favorite childhood books: things that inspireI consider Anne of Green Gables another classic series. The story follows a young orphan girl through life, from finding a family, to finding friends, to finding love and beyond. It warms the heart, has all the whimsy a girl like me could ask for, and has been read by me more times than I can count. Those characters are MY kindred spirits.

“Favorites for nearly 100 years, these classic novels follow the adventures of the spirited redhead Anne Shirley, who comes to stay at Green Gables and wins the hearts of everyone she meets.”

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Chronicles of Narnia

the chronicles of narnia 199x300 - Favorite childhood books: things that inspireLast, but CERTAINLY not least – C .S. Lewis tops my chart of all-time-favorite authors. I’ve read about everything he’s written twice and three-times over, this series most of all. I cannot say enough good things about it, from the character development to the breathtaking description and the poetic way Lewis writes. You aren’t dragged into the story – you go willingly, excitedly, through that wardrobe and into an amazing world where things aren’t always what they seem.

“C. S. Lewis’s The Chronicles of Narnia has captivated readers of all ages for over sixty years, enchanting them with fantastical talking creatures, epic battles between good and evil, and magical doorways into new lands.”

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As I mentioned before, these are only a small sampling of my favorites. After all, I was a huge bookworm growing up so to really delve into all of the books who touched me in some way throughout my childhood — well, we’d be here a long, long time. 🙂

Now that I’ve shared my favorite childhood books, tell me, what are yours? I’d love to know! Just write them in the comments below.

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Never-ending Cycle (a Socially Awkward web comic)

Never-ending Cycle (a Socially Awkward web comic)

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It’s a never-ending cycle…

I’ve been on both sides of this coin. Thin. Fat. The cycle is never-ending. And while I definitely prefer the thin side, the path to get there is long, arduous, and requires me to give up sugar 100% during the journey – a feat I loathe with every fiber of my being, despite it being the only thing that works for me and – let’s be honest – a healthy thing to do (we eat entirely too much sugar in this house and my family has a huge history of diabetes…. *shudder*). So yes, the cycle is never-ending. Yes, the path isn’t easy. But it’s worth it. Mostly. Until I’m really craving something sweet.

Beach Vacation 2017 (a SociallyAwkard comic)

Beach Vacation 2017 (a SociallyAwkard comic)

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 Beach vacation – SociallyAwkward style!

Okay so this didn’t *really* happen. (And, as much as we looove our fur babies, vacation time means the kids stay at home with a sitter while we frolic and recharge.) But, we are both huge beach bums. We do a yearly trek down to the Emerald Coast to soak up some sun (well – him more than me). Anyone else just love the sound of the ocean? The feel of that salty breeze? I swear as soon as we get close I can feel my stress melt away.

Darn it. Now I really want to go back.

 

Anger (a Socially Awkward web comic)

Anger (a Socially Awkward web comic)

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Everyone deals with anger differently

We all have different levels of anger. Our anger manifests in unique ways. When people push my buttons, I react swiftly. Like a fire, my rage burns bright and quick, then fizzles. Steve, on the other hand…

Well, Steve is like an immovable mountain. Things rarely get to him. I mean, seriously – the world could be crumbling around him and there he would stand, stoic and logical as always. Always one step ahead of the game. Except for that .0001% moment when something really gets to him and he flies of the handle. And EVERY TIME it’s some teeny, tiny, insignificant thing.

It’d be hilarious if it wasn’t so dang shocking. o.O

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